If you are struggling with self-doubt, worry, or self-comparisons, then these 5 steps to conquer your fears while pursuing your dreams are for you!
When starting my Health Coaching business, I often had days where I felt so behind and often compared my progress to the progress of others. I worried incessantly about what I was posting, the level of engagement on each post and, the number of people who unfollowed me after following me just the day before! WHY DO PEOPLE DO THAT? I realized that I was tying myself into things that didn’t define my true self and was actually steering away from the things that really mattered. I lost track of why I ever got started in the first place.
How did I get so caught up in things that only caused me to worry and doubt my self-worth?
Six years ago, I launched Ride Out Lyme, a nationally-recognized non-profit for people with tick-borne illnesses in need of financial assistance to pay for their medical needs. I collaborated with SoulCycle to host charity rides in San Diego, LA, Palo Alto, NYC, and Boston. I worked closely with Spaulding Rehabilitation Hospital to open the Dean Center for Tick Borne Illness, the first Center embedded within an academic medical institution focused on the treatment and rehabilitation for patients with Lyme.
PASSION and MY PERSONAL EXPERIENCE are what motivated me every day.
I credit that passion for Ride Out Lyme’s success as we became the TOP fundraiser at SoulCycle raising $10,000 – $100,000 at every charity ride.
Somehow, while creating a new business, I lost my way so I decided to take a break and reflect on the intention I set at the beginning of my course and work on the following 5 steps to help me conquer my fears while pursuing my dreams. These 5 steps helped me to focus on the things that were meaningful to me and in turn, reminded me of my WHY, my purpose, my values, and my goals.
Here are the 5 steps to help you get started:
WRITE DOWN YOUR DREAMS AND GOALS.
Studies have shown that people who wrote down their dreams and goals accomplished significantly more than those who didn’t. You are more likely to hold yourself accountable when your goals are on paper.
REPEAT DAILY AFFIRMATIONS.
I trust that I have the capability to achieve my goals. My mind is clear of self-doubt, and I am ready to embrace every challenge that comes my way. Every challenge I face is an opportunity to grow and improve. My contributions are unique and meaningful.
STEER CLEAR OF COMPARISONS.
It’s so easy to get wrapped up in other people’s successes. How often do we measure up to someone else’s credentials, the thousands of followers they have, and the quality of their content? When we compare ourselves to others, we fill our minds with negative self-talk. We lose our focus and vision on what REALLY matters.
One of my favorite quotes: “Don’t compare your chapter 11 to someone’s chapter 50.”
CONFRONT SELF-DOUBT HEAD ON.
Acknowledge the doubt and ask yourself where these thoughts are coming from. Then commit to moving forward and making your dream happen anyway.
REMEMBER YOUR WHY.
Remember why you started. Our life lessons are valuable! You may hold a business degree from Harvard or you may be a stay-at-home mother. Your WHY is what is going to continue to move you forward towards your goals and dreams.
When you find yourself steering off course and falling into old bad habits, come back to this exercise. I promise you that it will help stop the negative self-talk and fear in its tracks!
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